What if I told you that I have not one, but TWO methods YOU can use, TODAY, to rid yourself of sabotage in your life, once and for all?
Its a warm, sunny day here on Long Island, and after enduring 2.5 hours in traffic, I returned home yesterday evening from a two day mastermind meeting in Connecticut. AMAZING doesnt begin to describe the experience: Business breakthroughs, new friends and an enhanced confidence about the direction Weight Loss by Pete is heading in. I went to a mastermind group run by the same dude about six months back, and my business model, branding and EVERYTHING was torn to shit during the first one! This time, I was reassured that Im doing all the right things, and was given a new project to work on before Ill be returning to New England:-)
Now then, back to these pesky saboteurs!
They come in all shapes and sizes. Some are our significant others, some are our parents, some are our siblings, some are our friends, and some are coworkers. You get it
Each saboteur brings his or her own unique challenges, but this much they all have in common: Theyre going to try and either tempt or guilt you into falling off the wagon!
For example, your husband may greet you as you walk in the door from work Friday evening with a home-cooked but unhealthy meal, many bottles of wine, your favorite show waiting to be turned on on Netflix, and a box of Magnum Condoms on the table next to the couch to make him feel like a big man (I crack myself up!).
You decide to visit your parents for the weekend, and your mom prepares your favorite dish from when you were growing up: Pasta Fagioli! Everything about that dish is NOT on the agenda for your nutrition, but you dont want to make her feel bad, so you cave in, and before you know it, a weekend at the folks is a weekend of dietary suicide.
You just started a new job, and are out for drinks Friday evening with a bunch of coworkers. Being that this is the most cost-effective option (and they can give two shits about their bodies), they propose that you order a couple of pitchers for the table, as well as some wings. You know that neither the beer or the appetizers are a good idea, but you really want to fit in, and you decide to just go with it. Before you leave the bar, youve eaten at least a dozen wings, downed four glasses of beer, and because youre either buzzed or drunk, that pizza place right next door is looking quite appealing!
Want to split a pie, everyone?!
Howd I do in painting those pictures for you? Good? Yeah, I know! Thats because Ive BEEN THERE and DONE THAT in EVERY SINGLE ONE of those situations!!!
Lets break down all three situations really quickly, and propose ways to handle them without letting the saboteurs win:
1. The Significant Other.
For starters, if youre on your health and weight loss journey, he or she should be SUPPORTIVE of you! That means that theyre NOT going to tempt you to fall off the wagon. When you begin your journey, make sure that they understand what youre NOT going to be eating, so that if they do decide to surprise you with food, this doesnt happen in the first place.
If youve had this conversation, and this display of affection has still taken place, then theres a good chance that he or she is trying to sabotage youOr, theyre really shitty listeners! They may not be conscious of it, but (as youll see as a recurring theme in the next two situations, as well), theyre feeling THREATENED by your ability and your willingness to lose weight and better your health, and because theyre not ready to commit to this kind of lifestyle change WITH YOU, theyre going to try and bring you back down to their level.
I dont say this to imply that he or she isnt greatI say this to paint the picture of what theyre thinking in that situation if this happens AFTER youve discussed what changes youre going to be making, and what youd like to try and avoid from a dietary perspective. Offer to help them clean up, put the poor food choice in the fridge, and either prep or order a healthier option ON YOUR DIME. The Netflix and Chill portion of the night can continue as previously planned;-)
Like with your significant other, you NEED TO HAVE FORESIGHT! If you havent seen your parents in a while, and youve scheduled a trip to see them, make sure you call and tell them what dietary changes youve made since you last saw them. Ask that if theyre going to be preparing a meal for you, that its either a healthier version of what you enjoyed so much as a child, or its just a healthier dish altogether.
If theyre not sure how to do this, then you have two options:
1) Google a healthy recipe for them and send it to them IN ADVANCE so they can go to the store and insure they have what they need, or
2) Send them my Healthy Recipe Book! With 72 recipes spanning breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks, appetizers and desserts, theyre going to be well-armed with the information theyll need to insure that any fare they prepare for you during your visit is both healthy AND delicious!
Depending on how long youve been at your current position, how well you know your coworkers, etc., may determine whether or not youll even have the ability to have the talk with them prior to going out to a bar. That being said, theres a very simple way to handle this
Lets pretend that this after-work get-together is a last minute idea that you decide to go along with. Youre all about to head out the door for the weekend, and you all decide you want to just shoot the shit and hang out for a bit before you all go home. On your walk over to the bar near your office, everyones talking about your asshole of a boss or whatever it is you all talk about, so you dont feel comfortable mentioning what you WONT be having.
You then enter the bar, grab a table, and the leader of the pack asks everyone So, do you guys want to order a couple of pitchers, and maybe a thing or two of wings? Everyone agrees, and now you feel like a real asshole if youre going to say, Well, actually
So, heres what you do: Say something to the effect of, That sounds good, but Im actually trying to lose some weight, so Id prefer not to drink beer or eat wings. Im going to order my own drinks, so Ill put that on a separate tab so we can keep your bill down.
Since Ive literally done this before (you can ask my friends and former coworkers if you really want), 99% of the time, nobody will say ANYTHING! Theyll just be like Ok, thats cool, and you guys can move on with your night.
Sometimes, someone will say something like, Oh come on, its the weekend! You have to indulge once in a while, which you can put down by simply saying, No, Im good, thanks though! It really shouldnt escalate beyond that point. If it does, then that person is feeling uncomfortable because he or she probably needs to make some changes, but theyre not willing to commit at this time. Should they continue to pester you about your choice(s), the rest of the group will normally stand up for YOU, and put them in their place:-)
Anyhow, I hope you found this helpful! Regardless of the situations that may present themselves in the near future, DONT GIVE IN!! Be comfortable knowing youre doing the right thing, and be confident in your decisions!!!
P.S. If you need some help on the nutritional side in terms of WHAT to eat, then youre in luck! I have a Recipe Book (which I mentioned earlier) AND a Food Guide that reviews the three phases of nutrition that I not only went through on MY transformation, but that I take my Permanent Weight Loss clients through on their personal journeys.
Normally, each book goes for $10 a pop, but you can get both for just $13.99 since Im feeling generous today:-)
To get your copies, go to http://www.weightlossbypete.com/foodguiderecipes. Until tomorrow!
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How to Deal with Weight Loss Saboteurs! - HuffPost
