I just broke up with my boyfriend, and before that, we hadn't had sex in a year.
During that time, I tried to address the issue but my now-ex seemed disinterested.
Was my decision to end our relationship still valid, or was I too harsh?
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Dear Manchester,
Consider how little we're taught about sex, and how isolated your ex felt in dealing with a problem that society at large considers shameful.
"I have a lot of empathy for him because society has really told him that there's something wrong with him, and all men should be able to get an erection at any time," New York City-based therapist Rachel Wright told me.
Maybe your ex sharing his own ED experience during your breakup was his first step in getting the help he needs.
If you feel like he has the capacity to be more honest and communicative with you and you want to revisit your relationship, you certainly can. But be sure to stress the importance of working through intimacy issues together.
She added that therapy is the perfect environment for vulnerable conversations because it puts the focus on how you communicate about sensitive topics, rather than on the topic itself.
As Insider's resident sex and relationships reporter, Julia Naftulin is here to answer all of your questions about dating, love, and doing it no question is too weird or taboo. Julia regularly consults a panel of health experts including relationship therapists, gynecologists, and urologists to get science-backed answers to your burning questions, with a personal twist.
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