For the last couple of days Ive been talking about weight issues. For once, however, it isnt my weight Im talking about, but the weight issue of a 7-year-old girl named Bea, who is at the center of a multi-faceted controversy, the likes of which hasnt been seen since Suri Cruise wore high heels.
In case youve been in spin class for the last five days, let me recap:
New York City mother Dara-Lynn Weiss put her daughter Bea on a diet and wrote about it for Vogue magazine. The child lost 16 pounds over the course of a year, and went from obese to normal. At first, during discussions with friends, it was hard to tell what outraged people, the fact that she put a child on a diet or that she wrote about it.
What people didnt talk about, outside of the accompanying and de riguer tsk tsk, was the fact that what Weiss was doing, was being a parent. Its always a crappy, under-appreciated job, its hard to do well, and even when near-perfection in child-rearing has been achieved, youll get blamed for everything bad.
There are 70-year-old men out there who are still blaming their mothers for their relationship problems. Trust me, I know.
Weiss, who cruelly, evilly, gave her child the best possible start in life, was playing the hardest card in the Mom deck: the No card.
(Well, you just go ahead stick your tongue out at me, but your face will freeze like that).
But she has the rest of her life to be on a diet, one of my friends said. Shes just a little kid.
All that was missing from the conversation was a well-seasoned, They grow up so fast. Yes. Yes they do. Sometimes you have to.
One of the secret, half-whispered concerns were that Weiss didnt make her daughter lose weight for health reasons, that she didnt put her overweight daughter on a diet because 80 percent of overweight adolescents are obese at 25, and that 25-year-olds are at great risk of developing high blood pressure, heart disease and Type 2 diabetes, not to mention a lifetime of joint problems and high cholesterol. What people were worried about was that she did it so her daughter would be pretty.
See the rest here:
In Defense of 'Diet Mom'