If your constant compliments don't excite your partner the way they excite you, you might have different love languages.
The concept of love languages, or common ways humans give and receive love, was coined in 1992 in marriage counselor Gary Oldman's book "The 5 Love Languages."
Insider asked three therapists to share their favorite gift ideas inspired by the different love languages.
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Gift-giving may seem straightforward when your partner's love language is receiving gifts. But putting thought into the meaning behind the gift can take it to a new level, Rachel Wright, a licensed marriage and family therapist in New York City, told Insider.
If you want to combine receiving gifts with another love language, Ric Mathews, a licensed psychologist and mental health counselor in New York City, suggested new bedding.
"It's a 3-in-1. For one, it's a gift. It's about touch. New sheets feel great on the skin. And quality time, because it gives you an excuse to 'break them in,'" Mathews told Insider.
"Sneak a peek at your partner's Amazon or Barnes and Noble account and see what's on their wish list. Buy it all," McCorvey told Insider, adding that it's important to be mindful of any boundaries your partner has about looking at their phone.
If you go this route, don't forget to hide the confirmation email so your partner isn't privy to the surprise.
Wright suggested a hand-written card on cute stationery where you can divulge just how much your partner means to you.
"I love this one because it's sweet and cheap, but you still have to put some thought into it," McCorvey said.
"Quality time is about energy and focus. So sitting down and putting down your phones can create an environment for some epic quality time," Wright said.
If your partner craves physical touch like hand-holding and hugs, take it to the next level with an at-home massage, new sex toy, or extra-large fluffy blanket for cuddles on the couch, McCorvey said.
If your partner identifies with acts of service, they feel loved when you do chores or run errands on their behalf, no questions asked.
Since running a load of laundry or washing the dishes doesn't sound super-sexy, McCorvey said claiming a specific chore as your own can make the gesture special.
"Find out your loved one's favorite charity and volunteer some of your time to it on their behalf. It shows that you not only care about them, but the things they care about," he said.
